Charisma is not some kind of innate ability. You can acquire it if you work on it for some time.
zgrnews collected typical mistakes that prevent us from winning people over. We’d like to give some advice about how to avoid them.
10. Introducing yourself uncertainly
Presenting yourself to new people isn’t easy, we know. And there’s a temptation to just wave your hand to everyone and sit quietly in a dark corner somewhere.
- Why not: You’ll probably appear to be a closed person who isn’t interested in anyone.
- Doing it right: Say “Hi/Hello! I’m so and so,” shake hands with everyone, and make eye contact.
9. Not introducing your companions to the person you’re talking to
You’re walking with your friend when they meet someone they know and start talking while you’re awkwardly standing beside them. Familiar, isn’t it?
- Why not: This makes you think your friend is embarrassed by someone, either yourself or the acquaintance they’ve just met.
- Doing it right: It’ll suffice to say “This is Alex,” and introduce the acquaintances too, of course. Easy as pie, yet everyone will feel more comfortable at once, especially the new person in the company.
8. Forgetting names
- Why not: You can always say you’ve got a bad memory, but it’s still a lame excuse. People will think of you as a haughty snob.
- Doing it right: Dale Carnegie said that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest sound in any language. There are some simple techniques to memorize names. If your opponent says, “Hi, I’m Francis,“ you should answer, ”Hello Francis!” and then repeat his name in the following conversation at least a couple of times.
7. Expound on things no one’s interested in
Do not indulge in a lengthy analysis of a director’s method if the people you’re talking to aren’t into movies that much. And don’t talk about sports nutrition intricacies if they’re not athletes.
- Why not: A monologue no one needs is just a waste of breath. People will talk with such a person less and less.
- Doing it right: Make the people you’re talking to involved in the conversation. For that, the topic should be of interest to the majority. If no one asked you a thing during your speech, and they began talking about something else right after it, maybe they didn’t interrupt you out of politeness?